Hello there momma.
YOU are on my mind today. I’m thinking of you as your love is multiplying and you’re falling in love with that new baby in your arms. I’m thinking of you as your toddler runs up and wants you to hold him too. I’m thinking of you as you adjust to all your new everyday tasks that have been added to your already full plate. Sure, you probably feel that you’re juggling it all with a bit of awkwardness, but all we see from the outside is you doing with it with loads of grace and patience. You’re tired, I know. Exhausted, actually. But amidst the exhaustion you’ve found energy to intentionally love each of your sweet kiddos because you are amazing and the love you have for them runs so deep that you’d give up the world for them to feel it.
Your love for them truly surpasses understanding. It comes in the form of diaper change after diaper change. You tear up as you go back and forth between the newborn and toddler size, wondering how time has gone so quickly when you suddenly realize how HUGE the older one has become. They may have just left you covered in remnants of pee and poop, but you wash your hands and then squeeze them a little tighter because you know how blessed you are and how fleeting time is.
That sentimental moment is interrupted by a baby who is ready to eat and a toddler who dramatically lost a toy under the couch. You rescue the toy and set him up with an activity that will entertain him long enough for you to have a semi-peaceful feeding without there being any smothering or pulling on one of baby’s fragile ligaments. You settle in and take a deep breath, feeling a bit accomplished after making a successful transition. You are doing it! You are settling into your new normal.
After five minutes of peace, your toddler decides to wander into another room and screams for you to help him. You jump up, baby still attached, and see what he’s up to. You realize that the days of relaxed nursing while you stare deep into your baby’s eyes are long gone, and this time around you’ll become a pro in “meals to go.”
Speaking of meals, YOU are experiencing the hunger of your life. Chasing around multiple kids is no joke. Neither is finding time to shove food in your face or pump yourself with a little caffeine. You take what you can get, and even though you’ve probably enjoyed too many of those desserts your friends and family members have dropped off, it really doesn’t bother you because these days there are more important things than counting calories.
Mom life has a way of changing you. Your joy is no longer found in being freshly showered and fashionably dressed, (although it feels SO good to do that from time to time). You might not feel put together, especially in those early weeks, but yet you’re experiencing the sweetest moments of your life. These days your joy is found when you sacrifice for your children. You give up things so they can be your priority. Their immediate needs trump anything else you want or need to do. They are completely dependent on you, and while that can feel overwhelming, you are momma and you were made to do this.
Day after day, your confidence is building. You even decide you want to venture out to the grocery store by yourself with them. You feed the baby before leaving, which means you have exactly 2.5 hours before you need to do it again. After you pack up what seems like everything but the kitchen sink, you put the kids in the car, and step back inside the house to grab anything left behind. The house is quiet, and you decide to spend just 10 seconds standing at the door, basking in the peace before taking a deep breath and gearing up for the huge undertaking ahead of you. There you are, in the parking lot deciding how to get both kids inside the store safely. I’m thinking of you, sweet momma, as you park near the cart corral, carefully positioning the infant carrier in the cart, and promoting your toddler to momma’s helper. I see you race through the aisles with that look of fear on your face knowing that chaos could break out at any moment. I see you standing in line to check out, trying to remain as calm as possible when your toddler throws a tantrum and the baby starts to fuss, and you get the college aged cashier who doesn’t have a clue what you’re going through. He hands you your receipt which is basically like a handing you a golden ticket. You survived, you conquered, and you need some Starbucks therapy.
After that there are many more firsts. The first time the baby sleeps through the night. The first time baby smiles at big brother or sister. The first time you actually get them to nap at the same time. The first time you’re alone overnight with them. The first time you leave them both with a babysitter. The first time they get sick at the same time. The first time they play together. The first time they fight. The first time they giggle with each other. The first time they share without your prompting. The first time you get to drink a hot cup of coffee again. Each of these firsts is a big deal. You are experiencing something so special, so significant. Don’t let anyone ever let you feel otherwise. Little things matter, the work you are doing matters, and most of all YOU matter. Through every difficult challenge and small victory along the way, YOU matter.
So yes, today, dear momma. Today I’m definitely thinking about you. Because sometimes, when you’re in the thick of it, you just want to know that someone else gets it. You need to know that someone else gets it. You need to know someone else knows how hard it is, and how unbelievably incredible it is at the same time. Sometimes you just need to be acknowledged and remember that YOU are amazing. That YOU MATTER. That YOU are loved. That YOU are doing work that makes the world a better place.
To you, dear momma of a toddler and a baby, YOU are beautiful beyond description, and I’m cheering you on as you embrace the chaos. Keep on keeping on. I’m in awe of you.
XOXO,
Amber
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Needed this today. My 3.5 year old, 1 year old and 7 week old are perfectly exhausting. Simple tasks, when complete, make me feel like Super Mom :). Thanks!
Wow, what a blessing to have three so close in age! I totally hear you, completing simple tasks is definitely worth rejoicing over!!! You are amazing! Keep up the great work!
I have a three yr old, 2 yr old and a 7 WK old, its hard work but I absolutely love every second of it! This made my day, its so accurate Lol, thank you!
I am ugly crying right now after reading this, splotchy and sup-supping til I can stop. I so so SO appreciate this, my friend!
Chandler I think of you SO often! You are such a good mommy to those sweethearts of yours. Wish I could pop over and cry alongside you! 🙂
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I so needed this today! ❤️ although I have ten more weeks until number two arrives I’ve been stressing about how we’ll setting into our new life with a very active toddler and new born. Although I know we’ll settle in at some point it’s nice to hear others struggle and understand that struggle but that it’ll all be ok and work out. 🙂
Thank you for your sweet comment, Hope! You are truly one of the sweetest mommas. You will definitely settle in eventually, just give yourself lots of grace and remember that my little guy will likely be keeping me up at the same times during the middle of the night…we’ll have to message each other to keep each other up during feedings! 🙂
Beautifally written. I have a 3.5 and 10 week old. Life is crazy but beautiful because God placed them in my arms for a reason! Thank you for a great reminder to us all!
Thank you Leianna! What a sweet handful you have! You are so right that God gave them YOU for a mommy for a reason!!! Blessings to your family!
You have such a way with words, Amber! This is so me right now, figuring out the grocery store with my toddler son and twin girls. Thank you for this. And keep on keeping on.
Thanks for the encouraging words I have a two year old son and 7 month old twin girls so reading that really helped me!
You are so welcome Tiffany! Thank you for your sweet note and taking the time to encourage ME! 🙂
Way to go venturing out to the grocery store! It is a BIG deal with crews like ours! Target gives out free cookies from the bakery and now when we drive into the parking lot my son yells, “Cookie!” Hey, whatever it takes right? Haha! Blessings to you and your sweet family! 🙂
Thank you! Tears this morning as I clean up puke from the 19 month old, keep the 3yr old out of the way & pray that the 3week old doesn’t get sick.
Oh girl…sick kids are the worst. I hope they feel better by now and that not everybody catches it. You definitely deserve a little “me time” after all that! Hugs to you!
Perfectly said. With my 24 month old toddler and 7 week old newborn life can be super challenging trying to juggle it all, especially when two babies are crying at the same time. I can totally relate to this entire article. Hats off to all the mamas out there! Chin up and keep on smiling. The day is almost over when its bedtime for the babies. And a few minutes of quiet time before the newborn wakes up again. 🙂
Oh Sara…the crying at the same time…that’s always what pushes me over the edge. And yes, thank goodness for early bed times and a chance to take a few deep breaths before those middle of the night feedings!
This is perfect with a 20 month old and a 7 month old. Sometime I feel so overwhelmed and that my best isn’t good enough. But they are my loves and the joys of my life!
Wow, yours are so close in age Megan! You are amazing! I totally know how you feel when you say there are days you feel your best isn’t good enough. I hear those lies all the time too. But the TRUTH is that you are doing an AMAZING job and God gave you your sweethearts because you are the best mommy for them! 🙂
Thanks so much for this!!! Meant a lot to read it and it mirrors my life so much!
You are so welcome! Thank YOU! It helps so much to know we’re all in this together!
Holy cow…a big tear began rolling down one of my cheeks only after getting to the second sentence. I sit here with my one month old sleeping in my arms & my just turned 3 year-old who was just tucked into bed. The days are so long but so short. I can’t help but beam positive vibes to all the mamas who’ve done this with grace before me! Mamas, you are amazing.
Oh Michelle congratulations on your new bundle! You are doing an amazing job! I agree it is so humbling and inspiring to think of all the moms who did this before us! It makes me appreciate my own mom even more too! 🙂
I lived through my husband being deployed only a few days after our second was born and coming back 9 months later. My oldest was 2. I get this. All of it. With so many people who talk down on moms and degrade our everyday accomplishments it is nice to see this post. I’m proud of myself and all I the other moms (and dads) working to make our future generations successful and better people.
Jane….wow. I am in complete awe of you and making it through your husband’s deployment with two little ones. You are truly amazing and an inspiration! You’re right, we should hold our heads high knowing that the work we so is going to benefit future generations!
This is seriously the most heartfelt blog I have read in awhile!!!! Thank you so much for sharing and making us moms wonderful when sometimes we don’t!!! I will probably read this everyday!!!
Wow Monica…thank you. Your kind words means so much. It’s so important to remember how extravagant the work we do everyday is! Even when it involves being covered in spit up and dirty diapers! 🙂 Blessings to you sweet momma!
OMGosh! You are an angel for writing this Amber! Thank you sooo much for putting into perspective what all us moms (parent guardians) go through a daily basis and giving us that acknowledgedment that we so deserve. It is really nice to be reassured even if it is from a total stranger lol! I have a 2yr old and 2 1/2 month old and as blessed as I am it definitely isnt easy and my hat sincerely goes off to moms of multiples and more then 2 kids and kids with disabilities! You are truly Super Moms! God Bless you Amber for your kind words and to all the moms out there stay strong and keep on keepin on ; ) xox
Thank you Malorie! Thank you for reading it and helping me to know I’m not alone in feeling like this! Wow, it sounds like you are so busy in the best possible way! Thank you for your encouragement – you are a blessing!
With tears in my eyes, thank you! I Needed your sweet words of encouragement. God Bless You! (Momma to a 4 year old, 19 month old, and 8 week old)
Bunny, I had a 7,6& 2½ yr olds…the oldest only 10months apart, I still won’t take them all alone & I promise you never will, I’m sure I’d lose one somewhere..lol
Lol..I meant to reply t Nicole, idk what happened
Thank you for your sweet words, Ann! You are amazing for juggling all three of those sweethearts! Keep up the amazing work – you are such a good mom!
Wow! Beautifully written and right to the point. I’m gearing up for my fifth “toddler and newborn” stage of life (six kids ages 6.5 and under) and I definitely needed this encouragement today! It is overwhelming yet satisfying all at the same time. <3
Wow, what a blessing to have SIX kids! You are amazing! I’m sure you are the best mom to those sweetie pies – how wonderful that they’ll all grow up so close in age. Thank you for your sweet note and taking the time to encourage me! 🙂
LOVE this! I have a 5yo, 2yo and 5 week old. Though I haven’t been brave enough to take all 3 kids to the store by myself yet. 😀 Thank you!
Hi Nicole! How great that you have three precious kiddos – congratulations on your newest addition! I’m sure you’ll settle right in and will be at the grocery store in no time! Blessings to you beautiful momma!
Being a husband of a mother of a 4.5 y.old boy (that looks and behaves like Dennis the menace) and a 1.5 y.old girl with the same energy I have to give my tribute to my wife and all the mothers that continue smilling and loving their kiddos despite everything that comes with the “job”!I hope that us dads can help diminish that feeling of never-ending rush!
Hi Duarte! What a blessing to hear a dad’s perspective on this! Your wife is so lucky to have an encourager like you! Thank you for your kids words and for encouraging all of us moms! 🙂
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Thank you so much for this! I’m a mother of a 2 year old, 1 year old and 4 month old. Every day is very hectic. Your definitely right about the showers, half the time I don’t even remember when I got a shower last. People usually say things about my 1 year old still having a bottle and paci or my 2 year old is too rough. Nobody realizes how hard it is taking care of them by myself. Their daddy is a firefighter and works a second job so he’s never home. I am so grateful that someone else gets how hard but rewarding it is to be a mother of more than 1 kid.
Hi Chastity! Wow, you are doing such a great job juggling it all. We’re all doing the best we can and that’s all that matters! I always figure you know what, my kids might have pacifiers, but they won’t got to school with them! They’ll grow out of them eventually! Keep up the great work my friend. You were given those precious kids for a reason! You’re a GREAT mom!
Thanks for this. I needed it today. 🙂
You’re welcome, Brittany! Thank you for reading and for taking the time to write me a note of encouragement! 🙂
So So Real! I’m crying like a baby, stay at home mother of a 4yr old, 2yr old, & 5 month old & I couldn’t have worded my life better than this article did!
Hi Crystal! Thank you for taking the time to encourage me. It’s so helpful to know that there are other moms out there who are going through the same day to day things I am. Keep up the great work – you are an amazing mom!
I absolutely needed this today raising four boys from age five to five months is a bit complicated but this has made my day thank u
Hi Cassie! I’m going to need to take some pointers from yo when my second boy comes – I’ve heard it’s constant chaos when you have more than one! Keep up the great work – you are an encouragement to me! 🙂
This was such a beautiful post! I am a new momma to a 5 month old boy. Me and the hubby are thinking about going again in a year or so. I know it will be tough having a toddler and a newborn, but reading this article made me feel a lot better about that experience.
Hi Joscelyn! How exciting that you’re thinking ahead to adding another one to your family. It is SO worth it and a blessing to see them interact together! You’ll love it! Blessings to your sweet family!
Thank you! With my 19 mo and my 1mo this couldn’t have come at a better time <3
Oh Tori congratulations on your new baby! Those first few months are so crazy, but soon you’ll settle in and will be a pro! Keep up the great work! Blessings to you and thank you for taking the time to encourage me! 🙂
Thank you so much for this !!!! From a mom of a 2 year old and a 2 week old! 🙂 this was much needed !
Hi Kristina! Congratulations on your new bundle of joy! I hope you are adjusting well and healing and recovering and all that fun stuff! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! Blessings!
Thank you for this I needed to read this. I have a 1.5 year old and 3 month old. I never thought I could be so exhausted running around to complete my two lil’ munchkins needs. Not to mention taking care of my 4 year old dogs needs on top of theirs while their daddy attends college. So thank you for the much needed support and bringing it to my attention that I’m not the only one who goes through this.
Hi Jenn! Thank you for your sweet comment! It is seriously crazy how rare it is to sit down as a mom of toddlers! I feel like I need to soak my feet every night! And the dog thing totally made me laugh. We have a yellow lab and I end up taking care of it a lot too…ugh! Thanks again for your encouragement – blessings to you!
Thank you needed that. I have 2 boys 12 months 6 days apart. My second was born 10 weeks early. He is now 5 months old I feel like we are just getting a hang of things
Hi Lauryn! Wow, what a journey you’ve been on! Absolutely amazing to have them so close together and lots of other issues on top of it I’m sure. You are an inspiration to me! Keep up the great work! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me!
What have you done to me?! I’m 14 weeks pregnant with a 2.5 year old sitting here bawling my eyes out….
You seriously pulled all the fears right out of my mouth where they were buried deep in my heart, hardly mumbled or admitted to anyone.
It makes me so sad and so happy at the same time.
Thank you for this post! You have no idea.
Hi Cyndi! Thank you so much for your sweet comment. And congratulations on baby number two! It can be so scary to think ahead and wonder about all the unknowns. I’ve found myself doing that lately too as I think about adding another baby in a few months. You will do so great, and will love your new normal so much! Blessings to you as you endure the rest of your pregnancy while taking care of your 2.5 year old – I know how tiring it can be! No more naps whenever you wanted like first pregnancies! 🙂
Thank you so much for this. Someone understands what I’m going through! The way you described the outing to the grocery store is so true! I really needed to read this today.
Hi Andrea! Thank you for your sweet comment. I totally understand what you’re going through including the crazy grocery store outings. Today I bribed my kids with cookies and rice cakes. Haha whatever it takes! 🙂 Blessings to you!
Thank you for this post!! It was so nice to read. I have a 2.5 year old and a 10 month old, and it is just starting to feel manageable!
Hi Victoria! Congratulations on making it to 10 months with two kids! That is a HUGE accomplishment! I’m so glad you’re seeing the light now and that it’s feeling manageable! Blessings to you and your sweet family and thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
So glad you wrote this.. I have an 18 month old and a two month old and it is sooo tough most days!
Hi Kelsey! Wow, you are definitely in the thick of it. Keep your chin up, give yourself lots of grace, and always remember that you are doing a great job! God hand picked you specifically for those kids! You can do it! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
Thank you for the kind words of encouragement. I have a two and a half year old and 5 month old and a simple trip to the mall or store becomes a challenge, but I wouldn’t trade my babies for anything!!!
Hi Melissa! I hear you – it’s like you have to mentally prepare to go ANYWHERE! But yes, it is all completely worth it and the biggest blessing in the world! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
I needed to read this, thank you. As a mother of two boys: 2.5 year old and a 19 month old, it has only gotten harder with both being mobile. More power to the moms who have more than 2…I could never do it!
Hi Cassie! The whole moving thing really does make it so much more work! I feel like I’ve run a marathon when I simply take my kids to the park these days! You are an amazing mom – thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
This was written for me! I know it was. It had to be because it’s everything I’ve wanted everyone to know and didn’t know how to say it. My boys are 2 yrs old and 5 weeks so yes this was for me. Thank you so much 🙂
Hi Conchita! I know what you mean when you’ve been thinking it but didn’t quite know how to say it – it can be so tricky because you never want to come across as complaining because you know kids are the biggest blessing! Thank you for your kind note of encouragement! 🙂
So beautiful! I have tears streaming down my face as I’m sitting up at 1:30am feeding my 5 week old daughter as her 4yr old brother is sprawled out next to me because he’s decided he’s not sleeping anymore unless it’s in Mommy and Daddy’s bed.. I’m mentally and physically exhausted, I haven’t gotten dressed up, done my hair, or put on makeup since my daughter was born, most days I don’t even eat a bite of food until Daddy gets home at 3 and I’m finding it almost impossible to keep a clean orderly house with a baby who cries all day unless she’s being held and a 4yr old who destroys it faster than I can clean it but at the end of the day I feel like the luckiest girl in the entire world.. To have these 2 beautiful miracles who I love more than life itself! Everyone tells you how hard it is and how tired you’ll be but no one tells you how rewarding it is and how much love you feel for your little ones! Beautifully written! Thank you I needed to read this tonight!
Hi Tia! Wow, thank you for your real and sweet comment. Congratulations on your sweet new addition! It sounds like you are doing such a great job juggling it all, and that despite how crazy it gets you consider it such a blessing! What a beautiful picture of motherhood. Thank you so much for taking the time to write and share your story. It’s so helpful to me to know that I’m not walking this stage of motherhood alone! Blessings to you today, friend! 🙂
Thank you, it has been a tough few weeks! I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old. This couldn’t have come at a better time
Hi Karolina! I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a tough few weeks. I’ve been there and I know how trapped it can make you feel. Praying that you get some relief soon and that you’re able to take a little time away for yourself. Thank you for your comment. You are a blessing and a wonderful mom!
A little tear reading this beautiful piece…I am a mom of one 4 year old and am 8 months pregnant with my next. My little guy has been very sick all week and today I have to leave him to go do a school appeal on his behalf. I am wondering how I will ever cope when his little brother joins the throng in a few weeks time! .., but this, this is very encouraging! Thanks xx
Hi Rebecca! Wow, it sounds like life has been absolutely crazy for you. I’m praying for you right now that you’d be able to find a little time to rest before that new sweet baby arrives. You will do such a fabulous job juggling both of them! Blessings to you and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy! Thank you for your encouragement! 🙂
My days are exhausting with 3 boys, a 3 year and 3 month old, a 17 month old and a 5 month old. Constantly judged when I don’t have it all put together.. You know you’re overwhelmed when you have to bring the baby in the jumper in the bathroom with you just to wash your hair during your 1 year olds nap time while you bribe your 3 year old with a movie (yesterday). Chipped nail polish because one day you had time to paint them but it’s been weeks and haven’t had that extra time since. Thank you for understanding the lovely chaos that is my life.
Hi Kara! Your life sounds oh so familiar to me. Especially the hoops you have to jump through just to wash your hair! I’m praying right now that you would be able to have a few moments to yourself sometime soon, when you can recharge and rest. Until then, keep on keeping on. You are doing such a fabulous job! Thank you for your sweet comment and reminding me that so many of us are out there doing the same thing as we love on our kids! 🙂
I have a 2 year old and pregnant with my 2nd, due next month. This was a great insight to what I have to look forward too! Makes me a little nervous tho! Haha
Hi Vicki! I’m so sorry to have made you nervous! You will do so great and it will become your new normal in no time! And if there are moments when you feel like you need to cry, think of me because I’ll be joining you soon in the newborn stage! 🙂
To all the moms commenting, you will survive. And I mean that in the nicest way. When I first had children three years apart I didn’t think I would make it through the first year. Them at 16 and 13 we are starting all over with a now 15 month old and one due in january. You will survive 🙂 It will not emotinally get easier. Just as you think you have this parenting and routine thing figured out you will be dividing yourself between sports, dance, music lesson ect, then worst/ best of all preparing for their lives after high school. College visits are the best/worst thing ever. Enjoy the chaos! They will grow up too fast!
Hi Sarah! Thank you for your great perspective! I love hearing from moms who have been through it all! Blessings to you and your sweet family AND the addition of another one! You are amazing! Thank you for your encouragement! 🙂
This brought tears to my eyes, remembering how one man helped me in the grocery store after my fourth was born.
Not realizing I had two at home, as well as the toddler and baby, he made sure to tell me how much easier it gets, while loading my groceries onto the belt, after seeing me literally running through the store, singlehandedly tossing groceries into my cart, never allowing the cart to stop. Because as we all know, that’s just asking for your baby to turn into a furious little gremlin 🙂
Hi Lisa! God bless the people who actually stop and offer to help at the grocery store. They are angels! And yes, I totally hear you about the necessity of racing through the store! Haha some day we will laugh about all that we did to survive! 🙂
This is written beautifully!! Just when you think you are the only one spinning out of control in your mind and loosing your patience! Looking at other people in the same situation “appear” as if they have it all together!! It’s nice to know we are all in the same boat! I have a super chill 3 month old baby boy and a super dependent, attached to mommys hip 2 year old girl (mommy has to be with her every second in her mind) Makes life very chaotic when he has his obvious needs and she’s crawling up on my lap! Though he’s easy going he’s still an infant and she’s still a 2 year old…I struggle everyday wondering if each is getting enough of my attention. I read this holding him after his feed thinking about how I can always strive to be a better mother for my two sweet babies. This is just what I needed! Thank you!! Being a mom is the hardest job you will ever love!! God Bless you!!
Hi Cori! Thank you for your sweet and thoughtful comment. I don’t think any of us have it altogether, although it can be so easy to forget that! The whole attention thing is hard for me too…I’m always trying to make sure I’m being fair which can be stressful! Thank goodness our love covers all! Thank you for your kind words of encouragement – they made my day! 🙂
Great post!!! My oldest are 6&7 but are 10months & 1hour old…exactly!! I know what you guys are going through but take it from someone who never eve really wanted kids to Irish twins & a later add on..lol. Its. Hard,so hard. You have 1 gaining independence but still needing you eery second of every step & one who is completely helpless. I had no help, there dad worked out if town & I lived a few hundred miles from any family, the only thing I think saved my mind is that #1 I was blessed with really good babies who only cried when hungry, & I worked relentlessly a few months to get them on the same sleep/eat schedule….its hard to do & some cases impossible but I promise its worth the effort if you xcan do it, & it will take months, not days so stick it out awhile. You’ll make it & it will be your greatest accomplishment
Hi Alisha! Wow, what a journey you’ve been on with kids so close in age! I too have found so much sanity in keeping my kids on the same schedule! It does take a lot of work, but is SO worth it! Thank you for taking the time to write and share encouragement with us moms who are in the early stages! 🙂
Wow I needed this is a huge way today…I have a 21 month old & a 2 month old. Some days seem easier & some days when the baby is going through his witching hour and my toddler is having a meltdown because who knows why. 2 under 2 is the most insane, chaotic, overwhelming, exhausting, beautiful, amazing thing I’ve ever done. When I have those rough days I remind myself that this isn’t going to last long…as hard as it is enjoy those tantrums cause one day my little babies will be trading those tantrums in for grown up conversations. So thank you for your words on this…very much appreciated <3
Hi Tracie! Thank you for your beautiful perspective. It is truly such a crazy road to have kids screaming at you at the same time, always needing something, but you’re right, we need to soak it up and remember that it’s only a season! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! Blessings to you – you are a wonderful mom! 🙂
Definitely needed to hear this also…. I’m a single mom of 3 girls who are 8yr, 3yr and 2yr and it’s very stressful at times but I wouldn’t trade it for anything
Hi Krystie! I seriously am in awe of single moms and how you hold it together. You amaze me. Keep up the great work, and thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂 Blessings upon blessings to you!
I remember it being the hardest when the youngest was 1 and my oldest was 4 and they were both just destroying my house at the same time, or crying for different things at the same time. Now at 5 and 2 I can send them off into another room or the yard to play and actually get a little bit of peace, and the sound of them having fun together is the best!
Hi Lisa! Thank you for sharing a ray of hope! I’m excited for the day I can send them all off to play together – though I don’t want to rush it along too quickly of course! But there is truly so much to look forward to – thank you for being a breath of fresh air!
This makes my day so much better. With being a mommy to a 15 month old an a 3 week old and taking care of them while daddy works 4am-5pm it’s a hassle but I love every minute of it. I will keep this and read it often when I think that I’m having a bad day I will always remember that I’m not the only one and that I will have bad days but it’s well worth it. Thanks.
Hi Allison! Wow, what longs days you have! You are amazing! Yes, I love the thought of knowing that we’re all in this together and will make it through to the other side! Thank you for your kind encouragement!
Thank you, I needed this! As a mom with a 21 month son and TWO 6 month old babies, embracing the chaos is something I do all the time. Glad to know somebody gets it!
Hi Meg! Wow, it sounds like we have a lot in common with three little ones! Embracing the chaos definitely takes intentionally but is so worth it! Keep up the great work! You are an amazing mom! Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
This actually made me tear up. As a mother of a 1 week old and a 15 month old. My best friend shared this with me on Facebook. Sometimes it just good to know that someone at least tries to understand and care.
Hi Meka! Congratulations on your new addition! I agree it is so helpful to know that there are others going through it and who have survived! You are doing a great job – blessings to you and your sweet family. Thank you for taking the time to write and encourage me! 🙂
I have a 6-month-old, a nearly-3-year-old, a 5-year-old and a 7-year-old and some days I feel word so very thin, and wish I could just sleep for a week straight. But then there are days like today when everyone is fairly well behaved and happy. I’m so very glad to have each of them, because I know what it’s like not to have them (my first was stillborn at 38 weeks), but some days you just have to remember you’re human too.
Hi Brittanie! Thank you for your thoughtful comment. Wow, and the great perspective to remember to never take our babies for granted. You have been through such a journey, and now with four! Wow, I’m amazed by your! I agree, thank goodness for the good days and bad days that help us to appreciate it all! Blessings to you and thank you for taking the time to share and encourage!
Thanks for this post…my husband and I just welcomed our little man into the world 2 weeks ago and it has been a blessed challenge juggling him and our 18-month-old daughter. I needed a reminder that amidst the tears, tantrums, and sleepless nights I have so much to be thankful for. I want to cherish these moments.
Hi Summer! Congratulations on your new baby boy! Oh girl, I know how hard those days can be, and he exhaustion certainly doesn’t help to keep your perspective fresh. You CAN do it! Soon you’ll be settled in and the two of them will be the best of friends. Keep up the great work – thank you for taking time to write and encourage me! 🙂
Just found your blog from the social mix up 🙂 cute blog! Glad I found it 🙂 Excited to be following along now via Bloglovin! Can’t wait to read more!
Hi Whitney! Thanks for finding my blog and following me! I’m excited to check yours out as well! 🙂
I needed this today after 2 weeks back at work and feeling like I’m so not handling it well! Thank you so much!
Hi Kristen! Thank you for your comment! I’m sure you are doing a great job even when you don’t feel like it! I’m praying you settle back into work and that your new routine soon feels comfortable and normal! Blessings to you!
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This was so well timed . I was thinking it was so sad that I felt accomplished today just because I gave my 2 1/2 yr old and 6 week old bathes and I got a shower in the same day. It’s nice that someone understand exactly what it is like.
Hi Jennifer! Those accomplishments are not sad at all! They are BIG DEALS and I totally get it! You are such a great mom, even on the days the baths and showers don’t get done! Hugs to you!
So nice to know we mommies aren’t alone! I have a 7 year old, 5 year old, 3 year old and 1 year old twins although we are technically out of the baby stage, there are still many times I feel so proud when I conquer another “first” like today’s trip to sign papers at the bank with all 5 kids and just me but there are also so many days I feel defeated and overtaken by the needs of 5 little people. Thanks for a great post!
Hi Kristi! Wow, you are absolutely amazing! Five kids – my hero! Getting to the bank with all five is a huge deal! Whenever I take my kids somewhere like that and am greeted by the kids who’s fresh out of college and totally doesn’t get it, it just makes me laugh. I think to myself, you have NO idea how much work it took for us to walk through these doors! Thanks for inspiring me and for taking the time to write a comment. Hugs to you and your sweet family!
Hi Amber,
This is my life everyday! Thank you for articulating it so well. I have a three year old and a ten month old, both wriggle and loving boys! I blog about our travel adventures and raising then fusion-style (my husband is Japanese). I look forward to reading more! Thank you for sharing!
Hi Meghan! Thank you for your sweet comment! I’m so glad you get it! Your blog sounds amazing – I’m excited to check it out! Keep up the great work, momma!
I so needed this today! I have a 16 month old son and 8 week old daughter and its getting interesting to say the least. The part about going to the grocery store is completely me! I am at this moment debating about going to the store or not by myself! But thank you for reminding me that I’m not the only one going through this stage of life!
Hi Erika! Congratulations on your new baby girl! I totally understand when you say you’re debating about going to the store – it takes a lot of mental preparation to get your mind in a spot to embrace the chaos! You are amazing and I’m so excited for you as you continue down your journey of motherhood. Hugs to you and your sweet family! 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to leave me a note!
I need to remember not to read these types of things when I’m pregnant! I’m way too emotional and my kids get worried because I have tears streaming down my face. I have an almost-6-year-old who wishes she was the mommy in charge, a 4-year-old who is very reactive to everything his sisters torment him with, and a 2-year-old who is fearless, into everything, and very good at being 2. I am due in 7 weeks with another little girl and everything will change once again. My family is thousands of miles away, and I do not have close friends to vent my frustrations to and who can assure me my frustration and exhaustion are normal. I am so grateful that my children really do love each other so much and usually get along pretty well… And my 5-year-old mommy-wanna-be is such a huge help. I just wish I felt more able to enjoy them all right now and the incredible stages they are in. Thanks for your post and the reminder that my feelings are not unique and other people do understand!
Hi Lisa! Your comment was such an encouragement to me, as I too am going through all those emotions as I think ahead about how life is going to chance once again when this next baby comes. I know it will be wonderful, but definitely another challenge and another season when I’ll be living completely on God’s grace to get me through. I wish you and I were next door neighbors -I don’t have family close either, and I’ve been thinking lately about how great it would be to have other moms close by with lots of littles who totally get what I’m going through. I’ll be thinking of you when things get crazy, knowing that we’re in this together. Thank you for taking the time to write, I truly appreciate it. Blessings to you!
I wish my mother had been able to read this when I was born in the pre-disposable diaper and microwave era. I was her 4th born(15 minutes after my twin sister) my older sister was 26 months and my older brother was 13 months. My daughter has a toddler and new-born and I help out, but I can appreciate how overwhelming taking care of two can be. I can’t imagine what my mother went through and how she must have felt at times. I’ll make sure my daughter reads your blog. Thanks for writing it.
Hi Vince! What a blessing it is to get a comment from a male perspective. Your mother is truly a saint! I was just thinking the other day how thankful I am to live in an era with all the conveniences, air conditioning, disposable diapers, car seats, ect. Four kids within 26 months is so crazy! I bet you all had a blast growing up together being so close. It gives me encouragement when I think forward to what it will be like for my four kids! Thank you so much for taking time to read this post and to write a comment. And thank you for helping out your daughter so much – what a blessing it is to feel supported through motherhood! Blessings to you!
I loved this, brought tears to my eyes. I can totally relate, I’m experiencing the baby and toddler phase for the 4th time. I’ve had 5 kids in 5.5 years, let me tell you, you will survive! Thank you for this beautiful message.
Hi Brandi! Thank you for you sweet note of encouragement! It’s so helpful to know that it CAN be done! You are amazing for getting through it! Glad we’re in this together!
Thank you for this! Reading this and the comments makes me I feel like I’m a part of this huge team of courageous mamas and you have no idea how big of a deal that is for me. We are far from family and my husband works 12+ hour days (5+ days a week) most of the year so things can get lonely and the reminder that thousands of other mamas are in this with me is so encouraging!
Hi Rebecca! I totally know what you mean. Each and every one of these comments means the world to me! It helps so much to know that we’re not alone in these crazy years when we have so much time to think without really getting much of a chance for adult conversation! You are amazing for dealing with the fact that your husband works such long days – I’ll be thinking of you when my days get long! Hugs to you! 🙂
What a beautiful story. I only wish I could have had access to emails & websights like this when I had mine 22 mos. apart, 34 yrs ago. I often said that I could write a book, like the time I took them both to a Christmas bazaar in the double stroller & one climbed out, tipping the other one over & she landed on the floor & how embarrased I was as the nuns went scrambling all around me picking up my precious toddler. The other story was when my son climbed out of the stroller as I was telling the saleslady what shoe size my 3 yr. old was & he went missing for over 5 mins. He was later found in the stock room, can’t imagine how he got there so fast. To this day, I still think he was about to be kidnapped for this was right around the time that the precious little boy Adam was kidnapped. Everyone in the Towson Mall began looking for him. I can still feel the fright I had, it was Holy week right before Easter. That was the last time I took them both out together until they got old enough not to be in a stroller. Memories I will never forget but will treasure them always. No matter how difficult it may seem right now, having a toddler & an infant is the best!
Hi Debbie! Your encouraging words made me smile from ear to ear! Thank you for sharing your real mom moments! It’s truly so helpful knowing that so many moms have gone before us and have experienced these crazy but beautiful moments! You’re right, as much chaos that happens in a day, I keep thinking to myself that these are still the best years of my life! We are blessed to have stories to share! 🙂 Thank you again for taking the time to encourage me! 🙂
Wow, this was beautifully written!!! I can relate to this so much on a daily basis. I needed this today more than ever!!! I constantly struggle with the guilt that I’m not giving enough attention to my toddler or that I’m not able to truly savor these precious moments with my baby girl. Thanks for the encouragement!
Hi Angela! I hear you on the temptation there is on a daily basis to give into mom guilt. But I guarantee you are doing an amazing job and your kids feel so incredibly loved by you, even during the moments when you feel overwhelmed! Thank you for taking the time to encourage me and leave a note. Hugs to you and your sweet family!
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My two boys are now 6 & 7 but I remember those days well. At 14mths apart it was a struggle in the beginning. Keep your head high and remember the the only opinion that counts is your children’s, and eventually even they will forget those moments you feel you didn’t quite get it right in favour of remembering just how much mummy loves them!
Hi Trish! Thank you for this. What a great reminder! It’s so helpful to hear from moms who have been through it! It truly is such a gift to have the chance to have kids close together, no matter how crazy it gets! Thank you again!
Make that 2 toddlers and a baby. 3,5 years old, 13 months and 2 months old. It’s harder then anything I ever done before but I was never this happy before. Anyone that realised the age of my children holds their breath in fear but honestly all u have to do is forget about a plan, about setting yourself tasks, just wake up and do whatever the children let u do. Sometimes they have a good day and the boys are playing together and baby sleeps a lot so I can do stuff another day they just want me to cuddle them or play with them and so what if on that day we still have pjs on at 3pm we are happy.
Hi Anna! I love your “go-with-the-flow” perspective. You are so right! Not having so many expectations really does make it easier to enjoy motherhood! Thank you for that great reminder, as sometimes it’s easy for me to forget that! It sounds like you are so blessed to have your hands full! Thank you for the encouragement!
It’s so great to hear that I’m not alone. My babies are 13 months apart. We are only 9 weeks in to this “new life” and it’s terribly exhausting. I’ve been searching for a blog or forum with other moms in the same situation as I, just to see if the way I feel is normal. My level of anxiety when I leave the house with both of them alone is so high, we barely do it. And, after working all day (sometimes 12 hours), the last thing my husband wants to do is help me at the grocery store when he gets home at 5pm. To be honest, he shouldn’t have to! I should be able to do this! My 15 month old is a completely different child since his sister arrived (whom he doesn’t like). My once perfect angel who never cried, and was always the epitome of a great child, has turned into a whining, tantrum throwing brat! Lol
But, at the end of every day, I think about how many times that same little “brat” called me “mama”, or laughed at the simplest game of peek-a-boo, or starred with a look of true concern at his crying sister, I realize that it is all worth it. Even if we are locked inside and wearing pj’s all day, it’s TOTALLY worth it!
Hi Kellie! Thank you for this. Thank you for sharing your heart and your real life moments. I so understand what you’re going through. The anxiety I got during those first few months when I’d go to the grocery store were paralyzing. Never feel stupid or bad about it – it is a huge deal! It will get better, but give yourself grace for the here and now…you are doing a great job!
I love what you said about despite all the craziness how wonderful it is to think back at all the sweet moments throughout the day. It can be easy to forget them when it gets hard and the kids are crabby, but oh so important!
Thank you for your encouragement. You are a blessing to me! Glad we’re in this together!
This is so, so good. Even though I’m just a toddler momma, this is such a great reminder to not wish away the time. Just the other day, I was thinking how frustrating it was that my son was crying and babbling, yet I couldn’t understand what he was trying to communicate. Honestly? I just wanted him to speak words already. Talk about a convicting moment that followed my impatience with him in that moment…knowing that my expectations can be so misplaced sometimes. So, thank you for the encouragement and affirmation.
xo
Thank you for this! I totally understand when you say some days you just wish you could communicate easier with your little one! My little guy is almost three and still doesn’t talk as much as would be convenient for him and me! But at the same time I don’t want to rush it along because I know that means he’s getting older! Thank you for the great reminder and sweet encouragement. Hugs to you! 🙂
Thank you so very much for this. I have an 18 month old and a 5 month old. They are a handful and then some, but I love every minute of it. I’m constantly getting either scrutinized by my non-parent friends, or unnecessarily pitied by my friends that only have one. Your note truly touched me, making me feel both lucky, and appreciated. I hope someone can do something like this for you one day, because i just cant quit crying with marvel and appreciation. God bless you.
Hi Brittany! Your sweet comment brought me to tears. I completely understand feeling misunderstood by the people around you, when you’re not in the same stage. It can be frustrating and hurtful! It is so helpful to know other women who are going through this with me, and remembering that like you said even during the crazy moments we are lucky! Thank you – hugs to you and your sweet kids!
Thank you for this!
You’re welcome, Sonya! 🙂 Thank you for reading!
Thank you! I needed this. Being mommy to twin 2-year-olds and a 4-month-old, it’s easy to always look toward bed time. It’s nice to know there are others who know how crazy and wonderful this life can be at the same time.
Hi Yazmin! Yes, I totally understand! Nap times and bed times feel like mini vacations, but I want to enjoy the crazy moments too! Thanks for the encouragement – you are wonderful!
Thank you so much for expressing so well what all the moms with toddlers and new babies go through! I have a 3yr old daughter and a 2 month old baby boy. You hear how hard it will be with baby #2 but I wasn’t aware of how much is emotional (as well as physical-sleep deprivation). My first born and I are incredibly close and feel like I have to choose him over her at any given moment, depending on the need. I tandem nurse also and that hasn’t been as “lovely” as I had anticipated. Ha I also give kudos to myself if I can get all 3of us showered in the day. I could go on and on, but you get it! Learned a lot from the comments too! Thx again.
Hi Vanessa! Thank you for your sweet comment! I agree I think the emotions are in huge part to the sleep deprivation! You are amazing for tandem feeding and embracing all the chaos! I agree, that its a huge deal to get everyone showered and dressed! Keep up the great work! Hugs to you!
Thank you from a mommy of a crazy 3.8 year old toddler and a little 5 month old baby
Hi Brandy! You are so welcome! Thank you for reading and relating to the craziness it is to have kids! You are an encouragement to me! 🙂
Man reading this brought back so many memories. I remember all those struggles. I try to offer a helping hand to moms who need it when I see them in this predicament.
Man reading this brought back so many memories. I remember all those struggles. I try to offer a helping hand to moms who need it when I see them in situations where they may need help cause I remember those who offered it to me.
Our oldest boy was 5 months when we found out we were pregnant with our youngest boy, who will be 6 months soon. I blinked. Somehow he got so big so fast. I am blessed to be with them daily as a nanny, but sometimes I feel like I miss what is right in front of me because of everything else I ‘have’ to do. I am learning that as long as there are clothes, food in the fridge, and a few clean (or disposable! ) dishes, the rest will wait. I have given up on the carpet, because with boys, well…yeah. 😉
These two precious littles have captured my heart, and I can’t believe they’ve been entrusted to my husband and I. Thank you for sharing this. Whenever I see another mommy with many precious littles as well, I can smile and relate to their fullness.
This was fantastic! I have 2 children aged 2 and a half and 1. I was exceptionally blessed that my partner was home with us until very recently. But now that he has returned to work I am learning to do what I thought would be simple things – go to the shops, go to the playground, juggle nap times, putting the baby down to sleep when his big sister just wants to play (and keep walking in telling me – “He’s finished his booby milk mum. He wants to crawl with me now!!”). Thank you. x
Beautiful! These days feel like a blur, and reading this made me smile! Most of the time the parenting articles and advice you read on the net make you feel like you’re doing a terrible job, so this is so refreshing!! I have a 26 month old and a 12 month old… So our days are crazy, and tantrum filled at the moment, but this too shall pass! Thanks for your encouraging words, they are comforting!! Xx
What an evocatively written post – I am expecting our second child any day now (we have a gorgeous just turned 2 year old also), and this articulated so many of my thoughts and questions about how the craziness will likely play out. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with a novice!!! X
I really enjoyed reading this. It brought me back to the days when my now 9 and 8 year old were younger. Having a 2 month old and a 16 month old a couple states away from family and friends while my husband was deployed was extremely difficult and I think I experienced countless of the things you address in your letter. I read it aloud with my husband and it really gave him more of a look into what I went through and accomplished while he was gone and it made him appreciate me that much more! Thanks!
I have just read through every single comment posted & cannot think of a different way to write what everyone else has already said. My nearly 3 yo son has taken a long time to deal with the arrival of my 13 week old daughter. There are big patches of blank as I try & recall certain days in these first 3 months. It is all such a blur of tantrums, tears (mine included), guilt, doubt, exhaustion & elation. You have beautifully validated all of the emotions I’ve felt since welcoming my daughter. Along with every single mum who reads this, Thank you. All the best to you & your family 🙂
I loved reading this posting along with all of the other mom’s comments. I have a 1.5 year old little boy with a ton of energy and a 2 month old baby girl who is currently very fussy. It is truly refreshing to know that we are all in this together. I love having the support and camaraderie of other moms on this journey of parenthood!
I definitely needed this, especially when I feel completely overwhelmed on days like today. It’s my husband and i’s anniversary, and we both have a stomach bug, my oldest had football practice and of course I’ve spent most of the day wandering around the house cleaning up after our 5 kids (ages 13, 8, 6, 3, & 10 months) and even if we had the extra money to go out we can’t leave the baby with anyone because he’s ebf and still refuses to take a bottle or cup of any kind. It’s so easy to get overwhelmed with the day to day and forget how quickly the time goes. So thank you, for reminding me that someone else understand and that I need to enjoy this time while I have it.
As a mother of 4 children of my own, ages 8,7,5,4 months, two step daughters who live with us 11, 10 I really needed to read this. Lately I’ve been feeling like less of a person because I always get “oh so you’re a stay at home mom” or “what do you do all day” Like really. Lets see you do it. 6 kids is not an easy task but I’m trying my hardest. Thank you for writing this and sharing this with us. I saved it so I can read it over and over again on the bad days. Congrats on your new little one. Babies are such a blessing.
Thank you! Wishing everyone had your positive outlook. I just brought home baby (Saturday) to a less – than – thrilled 2 1/2 year old brother and I’m already struggling with the idea of being what each boy needs with only two hands! Your blog is already a blessing – found it during a midnight feeding. Thanks again!
Thank you, I really needed this today. I am a mom to 3.5 year old twin girls and a 9 month old son. Each day is a blur and I pray I’m doing it all right. Between trying to make enough time for my kids and my husband I’m exhausted. This was great to read, very uplifting. Thank you!
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I know that I’m reading this post months late but I think I came across it at the perfect time. After working a 55 hour work week & tending to 2 sweet boys (a 2 year old & an 8 month old), I’m beyond exhausted & actually have no voice because I’ve also been sick. I love my littles more than everything and I am doing the best I can for them. I’m glad to know people see it as more than just a crazy mess..lol! Wouldn’t change it for the world.
Beautiful writing, thank you for this. I have a teenager, toddler and newborn, and I thought I was the only one who felt so guilty for feeling overwhelmed! I appreciate the understanding.
Oh Amber, this is so beautifully written. As my husband went to work this morning for the first time since Quinn was born, I was already feeling a bit overwhelmed and defeated. I remembered I had seen you post this a while back. I didn’t read it then, knowing I wouldn’t be able to fully relate yet, but this morning I sought it out purposefully and it Really resonated with me. There *is* beauty in the chaos! Thank you for being such an encouragement!
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As a mother of a 3 year old, 2 year old and 10 month old, I definitely needed this! Every day is a struggle and I just pray I’m doing right by them. They are my world. Yes I miss the showers, male up, coffee and going to the store by myself but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’ve learned how to it all with 3 kids. Even if I’m holding one while putting make up on and even have an audience as I try to take a shower and the wonderful why questions every 5 minutes. I wouldn’t change it
Wow, I feel I could have written this ( not as well as you, of course). What a beautiful way of describing what all of us moms of 2 are going tbough. I wouldn’t change my “job” for the world, but thanks for putting into words what I couldn’t.
Thank you so much for these beautiful words! My daughter just turned 12 months and I’m due in 10 weeks. Your encouraging words brought such peace to my soul and I cannot thank you enough. I always worry about what I can do better and have really been struggling with the concept of trying to deal with a newborn and a child that just learned to walk.
This article I read a few times! It was crazy to me that someone could completely understand everything I am struggling to get the hang of! I have a 2 and a half year old and a 7 month old and they are everything to me and more. I stay home with them and it is a blessing but a very exhausting one! There are many days when I sit and look at my 2 year old and wonder how she got so big! I also breast feed my son and had to laugh at the “meals on the go” comment because like many other moms I have done this more than a couple of times! 🙂 I just want to thank you for your kind words. Even just reading that I matter and what I do matters brought tears to my eyes. Being a stay at home mom gets overlooked a lot of times and it is nice to have someone acknowledge all that we do! Thank you for the great article! 🙂
Kaiti Lawrence
Thank you for your encouragement! All mothers need to hear this. My children are 8, 6, 2 and 8 weeks old. Most of the time I feel like I am going crazy, especially with my husband working nights but we all survive somehow.
This is so beautiful written and all the emotions I have had the past 5 months. I have a 5 month old and a 2 year old and this is perfection. I bawled my eyes out as I read because of how deep it hit me. Thank you for this. I will definitely be following.
Reading this is like taking a page out of my own story…..except I am a single mother….and my oldest is Autistic. He loves his sister but is consistantly thrown in a spiral because he still isn’t used to not being the center of attnetion and it has thrown his world off kilter. Now that my little one is 18 months it is a bit easier but now working full time makes it harder. This helped me understand that I need to take a breath and enjoy the crazyness. Thank you!
I just came across this blog post, and HAD to comment. You nailed what it’s like perfectly. Thank you!! But when I read your bio, I see why… you’re right in the thick of it. I have children ages 4 and 6 months. Your post made me remember our trip to Target. I had almost finished getting the few items I needed when my son had to nurse. So we raced across the store so I could nurse him in the dressing rooms. Before we could finish, the 4-year old announced she had to use the restroom, so we raced across the store to the restroom with my son still nursing under the coverup.
But seeing the way they love each other, and how my daughter makes my son laugh makes my heart melt.
Thank you again for expressing how it feels to be a mom of more than one so well.
Thank you so much for this. I have a 6 month old and an almost 2 year old and we do have our rough days but nothing compares to those little smiles and giggles. Sometimes its just nice to know we are not alone and with every hard time there will be many great moments ahead.
I really needed this!!! Thank you! I’m a single mom of a little boy who will be two in February and then I’m having a little girl in March. I don’t know how I’m going to make it but I now know there’s hope! I know it’s going to be hard but it’s going to be worth it. There’s nothing better than being a mommy!
Just came across this post today, and it brought me to tears. I have a 19 month old son, and a daughter on the way, so this post was particularly poignant for me. I have to yet to experience all the firsts that come along with a second child, but I already fear the first trip to the grocery store, etc. I know we will adapt, but right now, it seems like an insurmountable task! Thank you for sharing this!:)
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I have a 19 day old and a barely 2yr old. Hubby went back wo work three days ago so we are in the throws of figuring out our new routine. I definitely needed this today. I *may* be ugly crying right now.
I needed this today. And so well worded. Thank you so much.
This made me cry!!!
I have a almost 9month old baby girl and a 3 year old boy.its been a rough transition for me. Im only 23 but wouldn’t change it for tbe world!
Thanks fot the encouraging words 🙂
God bless you
This is awesome! My baby girls are 5, 3, 2 and 10 months. Number 5 is due in July, hoping for a boy!
Cute post – I wish these were directed to “parents” instead of “mom”.
As a dad raising two little ones I took the liberty of substituting “mom” for myself 🙂
Thank you, Amber. I am an IBCLC (lactation consultant) and a post partum doula and the mother of three.
I remember my days with a newborn and a just turned 2 year old. Praying they would nap at the same time or that I could get 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Loving my baby and toddler while reading to them in the LayZBoy while nursing the little one. Leading La Leche League meetings and living what I taught by example. Learning to care for other new moms and helping them breastfeed because of the difficulties I had with my own and wanting to give back because others helped me. (And crafting a wonderful career out of what i learned.) And mothering a newborn one more time when my older children were in middle and high school.
Your article brought tears to my eyes…. and triggered memories that help me make other moms’ journey a little easier when I work with them.
Thank you.
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Loved this- completely relate! Mommy to a 4 year old, 2.5 year old, and 1 year old. Those first are very exciting! When our littlest girl turned one my husband I did a big high five. We did it, we survived (and enjoyed) another baby/toddler combo for a year!
Wow, dint know anyone else was going through this. Most mums look like they have got it all together. A 3.5yr old and 11 months…… ahuuu i even feel tired right now. My nails are so unkept, my toddler told me that my hair looks terrible. After a sleepless nite with the young one, i wake up early to prepare the toddler for school, take him to school.as he goes all the way crying that he doesn’t want to go to school, this drains me emotionally.
BUT the joy they bring to my life is unspeakable.
Thank you for this.
I have been reading various blog posts of yours this early morning since about 3:30 a.m. as I have been up with my youngest who is a teething 8 month old girl. You are incredible. Your stories, sharing the joys AND the challenging aspects of being a mom, and your honesty are inspirational. My three children are 7, 4, and the infant. We have been home schooling for three years and before that I have gone between being a SAHM, WAHM, and WOHM. Being a stay at home mom is hands down the most difficult job I have ever done.
I have followed and read many blog posts (probably in the thousands if you include recipes/nutritional information and home/unschool blogs), and I can say honestly that yours has resonated with me the most. While others tell you what to do and how to do it, yours is raw, real, and unabashed.
Please keep this blog going even if you stop writing at some point. You have obviously touched the lives, hearts, and minds of many struggling and lonely moms. With the direction our world is headed in, moms need ALL the honest, open encouragement they can get.
Bravo.
My daughter who lives in Texas posted this to Facebook , I live in Michigan, so many, many miles away. She is soon to have her second treasure from The Lord , her first is 2 1/2. As I read this blog my mind raced between memories of my own 5 children and how closely it pertrades my heart at that time so many years ago. Thinking of my daughter and how she is anticipating all the feelings described causes me to thank God that she understands the importance of being a mommy and a very good mommy she is. Thank you for being such an encouragement to young moms. God bless you.
I have finally settled into a routine with my kids who are 14 months apart. But I remember when I had just come home from the hospital and had no one to help me when my husband went back to school just 4 days after having her. Both kids woke up at the same time crying and wanting to be fed. I was so overwhelmed, I almost sat down in the middle of the floor to cry with them, but knew that would solve nothing. So here I , alone, standing in the middle of my kitchen nursing my infant and feeding my toddler cookies for breakfast because it was the easiest thing I could get to. Thank you for this encouragement! Because there are days in which I feel completely alone and nobody understands what I’m going through.
Truly touching. My babies are older now, 2 girls of 10 and 8 and a boy of 4. I can tell you that until now they drive me crazy, but it’s so worth it. All you mothers out there must now you are doing an incredible, priceless job.
What a beautiful and thoughtful piece! Reading this felt like a much-needed hug from a good friend. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I have a 13month old a 2 1/2 year old and an almost 4 year old. Life has been crazy the past few years but I’m finally learning to relax, give myself some credit and realize my babies will only be this little for a short time, and one day when I’m grey I’ll look back on these moments and wish I could relive them! Thanks for this awesome article!
Thank you for writing this, like so many other women have commented… It is exactly what goes on and it is nice to be reminded that we matter…
Loved this and shared this with all my friends 🙂
Beautiful words that I so needed to hear! I have a 16 year old, 10 year old, 8 month old and am expecting our 4th boy in September. I also will be 41 soon and was disagnosed with fibromyalgia 4 months ago.
In my mind, I have been trying to imagine what life will be like when my 4th baby is born at this stage in my life. Never imagined that God would bless me with this journey again. Looking at all my boys and holding my 8 month old and him hugging me tightly and his face lighting up when he sees mine, brings me so much peace and love. Every sacrifice and struggle is so much worth it.
I know the next couple years will be interesting to say the least. And grateful for the Lord’s answered prayers through physical pain and much needed strength and comfort. But in between the chaos, I look forward to those giggles, hugs and the love that these little men will have for one another. It will be one breath, one moment and one day at a time. There is no greater joy! Thank you for your words to remind and encourage this Mommy before the next season begins!
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I read this on my first night of chaos at home with a newborn and toddler. In the middle of the night when I was desperate and this made me see beyond that how beautiful this time will be. Thanks for writing this from your heart it’s a masterpiece!
I needed to read this today. With a toddler and infant I am juggling life. My hubby is deployed and I never thought that I would have it all together when it comes to taking care of both on my own.
Was sent to me by a friend! I have a 12 year old step son that lives with us, a 6 year old and a 4 year old. On top of that i babysit my twin 13 month old nephews three days a week, as well as take care of my 93 year old grandfather who has dimentia, and parkinsons, and work a full time job over night. My plate is full. And my heart is happy. Thank you for your beautiful encouragement.
Thank you. I sit hear with tears streaming down my face. So glad this came up on my desperate Google search. I have a two year old and a three week old and was desperately searching for something that would make me feel better about how I’m doing. Thank you again.
Thank you so much for this! I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 3 month old baby and even with help, it gets overwhelming. This put a smile to my face because I know that I’m not alone. Someone is going through the same thing as I am. I love my kids but when the toddler is throwing a fit and the baby is biting on my breast at the same time, you just want to curl up and cry. Again, thanks for this and sending out love to all the Mommas out there.
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This post brought tears to my eyes. I really need to read this. It seems like no one understand what I’m going though. I have a a 26 month old daughter and 6 weeks old baby boy and lately i have been losing it. No matter what i havent been able to mange and i feel so guilty having a baby so soon especially that I’m mostly alone in the house with hardly any help. Your post really made me look forward to the most beautiful experience of my life instead of dreading it every day. Thank you.
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I hope you can help. I live with my 3.5 year old and 8 month old baby in a bachelor apartment and we all sleep in the same area. I feel so bad that I can’t give my older daughter a room of her own. I work from 8 – 5 and then picks kids up from school and whilst driving home I start getting anxious about getting everything done. To bath the children, pack their bags…. can you help with some sort of routine after work as I am really struggling to cope hear.
This is an older post but wanted to show appreciation to you and all the mommies here. Mommy of 3 year old boy, 21 mth girl and 7 wks baby boy. waited for a long long time to have a baby then God blessed us with one right after the other….literally we found out we were pregnant the birthday week of the older siblings birthdays. it is a crazy beautiful life we live! God is great wouldn’t change it for the world.
I still have a solid six months to go before number two arrives and reading this has made me tear up at work. Such a beautiful and kind message to all the hard working mums. Such a nice read x
Thank you amber, literally every word of this is what I experience and how I feel ever day. I felt alone and a little isolated in this and forgot about who I was. I love being a mom and I put so much pressure on myself to provide my boys with the best love care and experiences in life so that they will grow and flourish and feel loved confident and secure. In the process I leave no time for myself. I feel as though I’m ageing by the second and my skin looks dry and drawn out, my roots are terrible and my eyebrows are more bushy than my husbands which makes me feel ugly. Also my toddler is beginning to have meltdowns about everything and I feel as though I put my baby down way too much to deal with my toddler. I miss spending quality time with my toddler and I just can’t get the balance right. So thank you. You truely made a difference to me tonight, I just hope I can figure all this out. Don’t want to waste time focusing on the negative. Want to enjoy every minute as they grow so fast. Don’t find it easy with little help as we live far away from family and friends. But I don’t want to fob my kids off onto someone else either. I want to enjoy them more and have less stressful times and in the process manage to find time to help me to feel like a human women that can look after herself and be attractive to herself and her spouse.
I’ll keeping trying to get there I guess. But at least I’m not alone hey? Thank you again xxxx